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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]NP.

I’m a SAHM now, but worked for many years (had nannies / Au pairs). SAHMs, please stop using this phrase!  It makes you sound so dumb!

Maybe there’s a disconnect on what “raising” means here. I think some people are using it interchangeably with “caring for”. To me, “raising your kids” means:

- financially providing for them (as a family unit, not that a mom needs to have an income)
- overseeing their education
- overseeing their health needs
- overseeing their social development
- celebrating milestones / holidays with them
- being there for them emotionally and physically 
- making sure their needs are met

So yeah, I think most moms are “raising their kids”. [/quote]

Everyone knows what someone means when they say they didn’t want a stranger providing at least half or the majority of care for their kids (I did the math and if you take 25 vacation/sick days a year, all 11 holidays off, and spend every weekend with your child - no time away - and you have a nanny or use daycare 9 hours a day and your child sleeps for 11 hours every night you are providing care during 49% of daytime hours; this is based on the assumption that most people work an eight hour day and national commuting avg of 26 min commute each way). Sorry, if someone is with your child for 51% of the time between 6:45-7:45 during the day they are doing a lot or actually the majority of many of the things bulleted above. I work and I’m genuinely not bothered by this because I’m not super defensive and I’m self aware. I also know how to do math. You should try all of the above. [/quote]

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