Reply to Bad Art Friend

Forum Index » Entertainment and Pop Culture

Reply to "Bad Art Friend"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous]Tangential, but I find Helen Rosner’s reaction to this odd. I know Helen from a college activity and Helen played more of the Dawn role there. It was a competitive oddly hierarchical activity where competitive success created social cache, but obviously lots of other factors played into one’s social standing as well; probably not unlike these writer’s cliques. Anyway, Helen wasn’t as competitively successful as she probably would have liked, wasn’t at an “in” school, wasn’t conventionally attractive and could be sort off putting (sometimes seemingly intentionally so, but then she also seemed to care what people thought and I later heard that she, in fact, had been somewhat hurt by it all). I actually felt kind of bad about it at the time, but didn’t know her that well and was sort of in a weird position vis a vis her for reasons that aren’t super relevant.

Anyway, she moved to NYC at graduation and some of the Sonyas, who moved at the same time, became really good friends of hers, because it turned out that outside of the weird strictures of the activity, they really liked her. They also totally did right by her with respect to friends who still thought of her as a Dawn; always invited her to things, explained to everyone visiting NYC that they were good friends now, etc. I never moved to NYC so that group has never been or become my main friend set and I’ve never gotten to know her really well, but we see each other occasionally, have vacationed together with mutual friends, etc and we have a few close mutual friends in common even now (almost 20 years post college).

By all accounts, she’s great. She’s obviously become quite successful and I, personally, think she’s a fabulous writer. But, she’s still a little bit Dawn when I think of her — because that’s how I first knew her — and even though that’s very much not who she is now, I’m surprised she has so little empathy for actual Dawn. I wonder if her own version of events is totally different or if not empathizing is some sort of defense mechanism.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics