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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Looking around, the grandparents actively involved in their grandkids lives seem more youthful than the ones stringing together all their Viking cruises and playing mahjong. [/quote]

Ha. I laugh bc my parent are in the Viking crowd. But I chalk it up to age more than anything else. My mom’s mom was 50 when my mom had her first and 52 for second.  My mom 66-70 when I was having my kids. Maybe she would have been more involved if she was 15-20yrs younger but whether bc of energy and abilities or because of literal time left - she’s not up for childcare or even lots of time with toddlers. I get that - when I have another good 5-10 years left before I’m likely too old to be easily traveling around the world, I don’t see choosing to spend the majoring of my time sitting around a playground instead.  Is it selfishly disappointing? Yes of course.  Am I disappointed in my parents or begrudge them using their last few good years getting in their last adventure? No of course not [/quote]

Yep, it's the age.  My mom was 52 when I had my first, 66 when I had my last.  Same person, but the energy levels and the realization that this may be her last 10 or so good years made a huge difference on her involvement with the kids.  She was working full time at 52 and only two days/week at 66 (by choice), but she was way more willing to jump in with child care when she was 14 years younger.  [/quote]

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