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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My mother in law has spent the last 30 minutes trying to decide on pizza toppings.[/quote]

I absolutely refuse to take individual orders with my ILs anymore when takeout is involved. No kidding, they spend so much time ordering that we’ve had dinner totally ruined on several occasions (elaborate plan only to find out Restaurant A is closed, and by the time Restaurant B order is ready, now it’s an hour wait and the kids have to go to bed.) Nope, they’ve proven too many times they can’t handle ordering.

Now, I let them choose one of 3 restaurants, but I put a timer on it: “The choices are A, B, and C. Let me know by 5:30, otherwise I’m ordering from Restaurant A at 5:30.” Then I order several, family-style meals and don’t take any input. I know what they like and I order more food than we need, but I’m not putting up with their antics anymore.[/quote]

What is with older people and dragging their feet on dinner decisions as if they completely forgot young kids need to eat at a reasonable hour. I will start asking about dinner plans around 4:30/5 only to be told it’s too early to think about. Okay but my kids go to bed at 7:30, so we can’t just start ordering at 7 pm. And don’t beg me to spend my vacation time and money on flights to visit you because you want to see the kids so badly, but also don’t want to even marginally alter your schedule to accommodate them.[/quote]

My 28 year old (selfish, spoiled) SIL is like this hahaha. She is the only one who is unmarried and without kids. We picked a restaurant while she was taking a 20-30min shower and had our orders ready. She got out of the shower and we were like “hey Susie! We are ordering from XYZ Mexican place, do you want anything special or just partake in what we are already getting for everyone?” She says oh nice that sounds delicious let me look at the menu. 5 min later we are like “ok Susie you know what you want? We are calling now”. She goes “sorry! Give me like 15 minutes so I can get dressed and finish looking at menu options.”

15 minutes. We all have young kids who have bedtimes, we already have the order logged into the system and are waiting to click “place order” before the dinner rush starts. Not to mention we are treating her because she would never dream of offering to pay. I butted in and said “we are placing the order now actually but if you want something different just call them and order!”

She made a big show of not wanting anything that was ordered (we ordered plenty of food, and a wide variety) and asked her mom, my MIL, to drive her to the grocery store to buy her an alternative dinner (because she doesn’t have a car here, she drove down with her parents). [/quote]

I cackled reading this because it sounds so much like my cousin. I had to run to the grocery store to get oranges to make mulled wine. "I'll go with you, I just need to run upstairs and change." 90 minutes, full makeup, hair styled, and TWO outfit changes later (the first one didn't get enough compliments from her mother) we finally leave. Our entire family has been known to change dinner plans because she wasn't in the mood for something, even though the other 12 people were very much in the mood for it. Family parties have been canceled because she was "exhausted from work" (a desk job).[/quote]

DH’s brother is like this too.  Last year we visited with the kids a month after his birthday, so doting MIL insists that we should have a special birthday dinner to celebrate his (non-milestone, a month late) birthday.  He insisted we had to go to Very Specific Restaurant.  
Fine.  
Him: No kids allowed per VSR rules.
Us: Okay, then we can’t make it.  
Him: Why not?  Just get a sitter?
Us: That doesn’t work for us.  We have young kids who are already sleeping in an unfamiliar house and aren’t super comfortable with sitters.  Just go out with your parents.
Him: But I already had a birthday dinner with my parents, this was to celebrate with the whole family!
Us: okay, then choose a different restaurant.
Him: No, I really want this Very Specific Restaurant!
Us: Does VSR do carryout?
Him: No.
Us: Okay, what if we got a sitter to come after kids are asleep, and we did dinner at 8:30?
Him: Okay, great!

The day finally arrived and he didn’t have a reservation, and of course he and his parents insisted we all needed to stay indefinitely to wait for a table for 6 on a Saturday night during the holidays.  We didn’t get seated until 10pm and everyone was annoyed that we kept ruining the fun by trying to suggest that we try to eat quickly and not order tons of apps and desserts and do coffee after dinner.  Meanwhile we are paying a sitter, praying our kids don’t wake up in a strange house alone with a random teen and freak out and cringing at the reality that our kids will be up at 6:30 no matter how late we stay.
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Oh hell no!!! [/quote]

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