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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The rich SAHMs dropping off their kids at private school in black SUVs on their way to yoga in their Lululemon pants are a statistically insignificant number of SAHMs, but that's always what gets all the attention here on DCUM.  Most SAHMs are middle class, married to medium-earning DHs who stay at home because their salaries wouldn't cover the cost of childcare, not because they're married to rich guys and money is no object.  I guess that's not as much fun to snark on.  [/quote]

Actually for them it makes the most sense to work; the daycare years are limited, so you spend ten years maybe breaking even, but then have 30 years of working life built on that 10 years to grow a career. The very reason they don’t have a breadwinner makes working even more important [/quote]

Nope not necessarily true, and they want to raise their children. You're very out of touch with women, PP. Btw, I'm surprised your high-class life didn't teach you how to use commas. [/quote]

Here’s the thing… these SAHMs raise children for x number of years but what are they going to do after those years? They have no identity beyond being their children’s maid, cook, and chauffeur. [/quote]

Women aren’t defined by jobs.  A female lawyer or doctor doesn’t stop becoming the individual she is when she retires.  The same thing for a SAHM.  I’m more than just my job in the home - I have valuable friendships, I volunteer in my community, I’m in a book club with a mix of working and non-working moms, I am active in my religious organization, I care for my pets and elderly family members.  Those enriching aspects of my life don’t just end when my kids go off to college.  [/quote]

+1.  I am a WOHM and work as a physician.  I talk to a lot of people about their feelings and struggles.  IME, people who have one way of defining themselves, whatever that is, really do struggle when that thing ends.  It doesn't matter if it's being a doctor or a parent or a beauty queen.   (Usually the people who define themselves by their job are men, but that might be changing.)  Most people, like pp, are multidimensional with varied interests, identities, and social outlets.  [/quote]

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