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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What exactly are you proposing OP? Are you going to be the one checking on your mother or does that fall to your wife? Will whatever you propose alter the evening routine for your wife?[/quote]

+1  The fact that he keeps using "we" blur the fact that he's asking [i]her [/i]to do this is sketchy, and that he would even start this thread scapegoating his wife when it's his sister at fault is worse yet.  Add in the way OP refuses to answer any question about his sister's spouse and there's nothing to say but #teamwife.[/quote]

That's not what he has said.  He said she won't agree to pay for extra childcare so he could do it.  [/quote]

Op here

This is correct. My wife does not want to pay our sitter an extra $40/day (we pay her $20/hr for after school care) so that I can spend 2-3 hours with my mom in the afternoon.

Im off at 3, but my parents live 1 hour from my work. I would get home around 5PM, my wife gets home at 6. Normally we had a sitter pick our kids up from school and watch them until I got home at 3:30. But we would now need them to watch the kids from 7-5:30. My parents live 1 hour from my house.

My wife does not like my sister in general. She is married to an alcoholic and his behavior at holidays has been terrible. He is completely useless and can’t be trusted to watch his mother in law. My sister has spent many nights at our house with her kids, saying she’s going to leave him but she never does. I think my wife kind of lost it after she helped my sister get set up with counselling and a plan to leave and she never followed through:

My wife is a social worker and is vehemently opposed to the idea in general. [/quote]

Yeah, this is a lot of family history here. You have got to leave your wife out of these arrangements for the time being and tell you sister that DW is not available, no explanation.

I bet your wife might come around on her own, over time. Forcing the issue is going to cause more tension and trouble than it's worth.[/quote]

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