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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]One of my close friends had a wedding last year in another city and did not allow my 13 year old to attend. I was deeply offended and it has essentially ended the friendship. This is a child the bride has known since birth. We shared many other important events together. My DD cried when she found out she was excluded. Flying cross-country without my DD, losing a weekend of time with her, etc. was annoying. I am in my mid-40s and my DH and I have no desire to have a drinking-heavy night on the town type experience. So, OP, you do what you want, but realize there will probably be consequences.[/quote] Then she was not that close of a friend in reality if you cannot understand that she chose to have a wedding of 18+. I don't need to have "heavy drinking" to enjoy an adults only wedding and I can enjoy a wedding without my teen in tow [/quote] PP you quoted here. I don't think there is a one-size-fits-all rule for this. I have attended other weddings that were for adults only, left my DD at home, and didn't mind or get upset at all. But this was one of my (supposed) best friends! We had been sharing events like weddings, birthdays, funerals, holidays for 25 years. And when I got to her "no kids" wedding attended by 300+ people and saw that she did actually invite a handful of children - just not mine - I realized I must have totally misunderstood how close we were. A bride not including kids they don't know very well, yeah, that seems fine. But excluding someone you've been close with for years, you should expect blowback.[/quote] Did you enjoy yourself more without having to worry what your kid was doing?[/quote] The PP's child was 13 years old, so, doubtful.[/quote] No, I didn't. Having to find childcare for the entire weekend was a challenge and I was bummed to fly to a "destination" without her because she really would have enjoyed it and it sucked to use up one of my few free weekends not getting to be with her. She would have had a lot of fun at the wedding.[/quote] Then you just say no. And take your kid on vacation. This isn't hard since you don't really care about the wedding on its own.[/quote] +1 That's exactly the way read it. It was all about the PP and her DD, not about celebrating a friend's wedding. It's clear the PP pleasure was diminished because her DD wasn't there. That's on the PP, not the bride and groom. [/quote]
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