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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]A woman had a ONS, maybe she was horny. 
A woman stayed home, maybe it was financially more convenient for her than for him to stay home.
A woman pursued a female oriented career, maybe that was the career that she loved.

I disagree with feminists that every choice a woman makes is influenced by the patriarchy as there are many reasons why we do things that have very little do do with gender.
When it comes to changing names after marriage, however, I can't see a non-patriarchal reason for the custom, especially in countries like US, Canada and the UK which are pretty liberal when it comes to laws regarding naming conventions:

Your name is ugly and you father was a d!ck? You can change it as soon as you turn 18!
You want to have the same name as your children? You can give them your name or both yours and your partner!
You want to start your own family unit? You can always start a new surname for both of you!

The fact that it's almost always women doing the change (less than 5% of men change theirs) is a clear testament to marriage as an institution with the man as its head. None of these women changing their names whose partner "didn't care either way" offered their partner to take theirs, and if they did the partner most likely said "hell no". [/quote]

You’ve over-analyzed this. Here’s my reason for taking his name: I liked it. I wasn’t bowing down to patriarchal tradition, etc.

It hasn’t affected my family, my career, or anything else. [/quote]

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