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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Pp with teen and tween. I’m not sure what amount of pushing can get your kid to the finish line. I was and am a very involved parent. I was on the pta, did snacks for soccer, volunteered for swim team, did cub scouts and Girl Scouts, let my kids do robotics, ballet, cheer, hip hop, musical theater, chess, model UN, debate, science olympiad, spelling bee, anything and everything they were interested in.

My almost 13yo will barely take the trash out. There is absolutely no way to get a kid who isn’t motivated or has the will to do said activity.

I have spent the past decade taking this kid to children’s museums, science museums, reading together, playing board games, going on hikes, visiting national parks and all I could do to try to enrich this kid.

DH says we have good kids. It is up to them. [b]I can’t force them to do anything.[/b] I will sometimes catch them dosing off and I can barely get them to brush their teeth or take out the trash. No way would they compete at some high level whether it is a sport or academics because the mom pushed them. I will offer supports if they need but I can’t force anything at this point.[/quote]

I'm confused by this. No you can't force anything, but you make the consequences painful enough to matter. If my kids don't do their chores then there are consequences. If I had a 13 yo who wasn't taking out the trash, they'd not be doing anything they enjoyed until they did take out the trash. Yeah it's work on my part, but do it enough times and it ends up saving work in the long run because your kids follow through on their chores (perfectly? no, but at least good enough).[/quote]

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