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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Team Wife here.  Your mom provided thousands and thousands of dollars worth of free childcare to your sister.  (Say, 2 kids x 5 years each x $16,000 = $160k at a minimum).  She can pay for a service now. [/quote]

Best post so far. [/quote]

Nope.  Mom agreed to do that for FREE.  If my kid takes a job paying 8 bucks an hour, I can't years later decide that he was actually supposed to be paid $18/hour.  It doesn't work that way.

Plus, you have no clue what SIL was doing for her mom in exchange for the babysitting.  Regardless, it must have been a mutually agreeable arrangement of the time.  And, no, Op doesn't "get" anything out of it now.[/quote]

There are consequences to treating your children unequally. You want to favor one set of grandkids, go ahead but don’t be surprised if you set up this type of dynamic. [/quote]

Exactly.  This is one factor among many why OP’s wife is the clear headed one.  That one lady who keeps on popping up to defend the SIL also has some interesting views about how wome should be the caters, should be taking care of these family matters.  Definitely team wife.  OP needs to check on the status of his marriage and check for resentment.  
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