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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s not unreasonable for a man to want a working wife. I would also not go into marriage planning to pull a bait and switch unless you’re okay with the idea of working if he doesn’t agree. If this is truly a dealbreaker for you then you need to keep looking for high earners. [/quote]
OP here. 
Is it unreasonable for a woman to want to be a SAHM? This is only during the kids early years. Why don’t men find it mutually beneficial?
Should I just give up on that wish?
Where did all SAHM here find men who didn’t find it unreasonable?
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We didn’t plan on it, but circumstances evolved so that it made the most sense for our families.  I always worked part time kept some hourly work at least from a former employer, them went back 20 hours, now back full time. I’m a lawyer so I earned more than DH early in our marriage. His income jumped later and I could be home or very part/time a few years. The key is that marriage should be a partnership, that means you should be open to doing what works for the family. You just won’t be able to know what that is until you get there. Declaring you want to be a stay at home mom signals to guys that u want to be taken care of.  Declaring youd like one parent home as much as possible from ages 0-6 if we can swing that financially addresses your wishes in a way that also signals you r willing to be an equal partner.[/quote]

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