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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]A housekeeper doesn’t fix the mental load, the planning, the remembering, the emotional labor, or the resentment that builds when one person is treated like the default parent or manager of all the things.[/quote]

I am a man and I've always done everything kid related (not asking for applause here, just stating a fact), planned and paid for it all, and I just don't feel any resentment towards DW. I dunno, maybe I should. [/quote]

Really? That's great, but all of it? Like school conferences, doctor, dentist, ortho, etc appointments, RSVPing for birthday parties, planning birthdays and buying the gifts, staying on top of school emails, teacher conferences, homework help, logging into parent portal to stay on top of grades/missing work, sports sign-ups, arranging childcare, summer camps, school forms/medical forms/sports forms, keeping track of sizes and clothing needs, school lunches, teacher appreciation week/"spirit" days, friend drama, coordinating pickups and drop offs, sick days, managing screen time, holiday traditions...? This is not an exhaustive list, but that's pretty rare if you are a dad and doing all of this and more solo.

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NP, but that's all stuff normal dads do.  My wife wouldn't even know how to check ParentVue/SIS.  We agree on summer camps and then I sign up for them and keep the paperwork for taxes the next year.  I'm arranging a joint birthday party with my daughter's best friend and who am I talking to about it?  The other dad.[/quote]

This is clearly satire. [/quote]

I wonder sometimes if people get out of the echo chamber of this site enough to see what the real world is like? No reason to think that's satire. It's entirely plausible to my experience as a parent. [/quote]

None of us can know if this is true, it’s possible of course. I have met literally zero men who do this though, I am struggling to think of any I know who I would say seem to do more than 50 percent. What I have encountered, a lot, is men who feel they do a ton of “parenting work”but really it turns out that they coach a sport they like and want their kids to play and take out the recycling bin once a week. Honestly I think the more a guy does the less he talks about it because he’s aware of how much his wife is doing too. He can’t just live in lala land like magic fairies are bringing dinner each night and the clothes magically appear clean and folded in the drawers.[/quote]

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