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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Women should be independent and make decisions for themselves.  Their choices are their own.  Unless they choose something I disagree with, like taking their husband’s surname, and then they’re antiquated, stupid, and succumbing the patriarchy.  [/quote]

Being a feminist doesn't mean agreeing with every choice women make. I wouldn't lecture a friend for changing her name, butthe reality is that this is something tgat's only expected from women, never from men, and unlike many other choices, a name change after marriage is only a thing because of a sexist tradition, not because it's practical.[/quote]

Maybe a woman just wants to do it.  Not only should you not lecture a friend, you also shouldn’t think you’re entitled to an explanation or that there is an explanation.  Some people just want to do it, others don’t.  MYOB.[/quote]

Friend, have you ever interrogated why so many women "just want to do it," and why virtually no men ever want to? The idea that everyone is making this decision in a vacuum, just "choosing their choice" is quite...naive. [/quote]
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Yes, it's your choice, influenced by hundreds (thousands?) of years of patriarchy. Why people can't acknowledge that is beyond me. [/quote]

Duh, and so what? Acknowledged. And still people can make that choice. Do you want to take away the choice because you don't like it now?[/quote]

DP here, and thank you! I’m quite aware that my decision to take my husband’s name is born out of patriarchy. I did it anyway and I haven’t looked back.

I hope the feminists on this board can support my autonomy here. I should get to choose what’s best for me, right? [/quote]

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