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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It’s very provincial.

Changing your name after marriage is not a common practice world wide. In a lot of instances, a husband and wife sharing a surname signals an incestuous relationship.

However, if you’ve never travelled out of the United Stares, I can see how one could assume this practice is universal. This is no different than a villager from a remote village assuming everyone practices female genital mutilation because it’s all they know.

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How is a woman choosing to change her name provincial? If she doesn't know that she has a choice to keep/change her name or if she is forced to change her name that would be one thing. I knew that I didn't have to change my name, my husband didn't care one way or the other if I changed my name, his family didn't care, my family didn't care. I chose to change my name because I wanted to. That is not "provincial" or unsophisticated. It is my preference. My choice. I like my husband's name better than the name I was given at birth. Simple as that.[/quote]

Did your husband also give serious consideration to changing his name to yours? [/quote]

DP.  The whole equal rights situation is that both partners should have the right to keep their birth name, change to their partner's name, or change to a new family name created for the new family.  The point of having the right to choose is that there is no right answer for everyone.  Calling someone's choice provincial when many people of all walks of life, all demographics, and all regions (whether urban, suburban, rural or truly provincial) have made the same choice is ridiculous.

I know 3 men who changed their names to their wives names for various reasons.  Yes, a tiny percentage considering the thousands of married couples that I know, but still they had the choice and they chose.  I also know thousands of women who had the choice of what they wanted their name to be after marriage and I know a significant number of all three categories.  There is no right or wrong, other than what is/was right for you.[/quote]

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