Reply to SAHM’s - anyone successfully convince DH to support their staying home long term?

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "SAHM’s - anyone successfully convince DH to support their staying home long term?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Why should he work if you won’t?[/quote]

OP here - my view is, why should I do everything I do now plus a job? I would be insane to agree to that. He’s not going to magically do half. [/quote]

Well, you shouldn't,  so he'll need to step up, but you also likely have to realize that some things you do he may not consider valuable like baking fresh bread every day.

OP, my mother was a SAHM  and I honestly don't think I benefited from it greatly. She like you wanted to stay home and do all the things you list.   Great ! Live your dream, except her dreams came with the cost of her kids having to take out loans to go to college.

Your kids don't need freshly baked bread every day. They would hugely benefit from not having to take out loans to go to school and your income could help build a nice little nest egg so college could be covered for them.[/quote]

[b]I agree. My mom was SAHM and I never liked that. It was five of us, we literally were poor. I wanted my mom to work and hustle for us.[/b] [/quote]

I guess if I grew up poor, and my parents had 5 kids, I would have been pissed too.  If you are poor (or even if you are not poor) have a small number of kids that you can afford to raise well.  You are a human being not a canine. You don't have a litter, FFS.[/quote]

No one owes you college.  Reality is she couldn't afford to work with five kids.[/quote]

So incredibly selfish to bring children in the world and then not do everything you can to make sure ey get the best shot of caring for themselves.[/quote]

So incredibly privileged of you to make a statement like that and not have a clue that there are a million stories out there where people are good and decent and hardworking and can't pay for their kid's college.

Get your head out of your butt.[/quote]

But that has nothing to do with you  who sits on her ass all day knowing she could do something to improve her children's situation but is actively choosing not to so she can watch TV.

At the very least you could spend your time volunteering to improve the situation for the impoverished people you are so concerned about.[/quote]

I doubt any mother of 5 kids living in the house has a lot of time for TV. [/quote]

I am (well, was) a SAHM of five.  They are all grown and living their best lives now.  I don’t remember watching much television when my kids were at home.  Even when they were all in school, I was busy.  I remember actively seeking out opportunities for self-care just to keep myself healthy. My goal was always to get as much done during the day as possible so that DH could come home and spend time with me and the kids without worrying about cleaning, errands, laundry, etc.  I tried to have homework done, kids bathed, everything organized so that our evenings were relaxing and stress free. [/quote]

I have always worked full-time from home.  I had a nanny until my kids were in preschool 9-3 and then I did it on my own.  BUT, I only have 2 kids.  There is no way I could keep up our lifestyle if I had more than 2, especially because I did more on the home front since my spouse worked longer hours.  I love big families, but any more than 2 would have personally killed me :).  5 is a full-time job +2.  I am sure it is so rewarding now.[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics