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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote]I think that most people who do freelance work or work less than about 20-30 hours a week still refer to themselves as SAHMs in these threads.

I have seen people refer to themselves as SAHMs even though they: 
- work at their kids elementary schools every day that the school is open 
- own and manage multiple rental properties 
- do freelance, hourly, or consulting work 
- do part time shift work (doctors and nurses) 
- do the books and some of the management for their husband's small business[/quote]

This is me — I make about 35k a year doing freelance consulting work but refer to myself as a SAHM on here. I also basically feel like a SAHM in life. I do not have the same juggle with job/commute/childcare that WOHMs deal with. I can always scale back work to accommodate parenting. Today I’m lying around the house cleaning and relaxing while my kid is at school because I’m between projects with work.

[b]I don’t think WOHMs want me as “one of them.” Especially on these boards, there’s a ton of martyrdom that goes along with it, like look at me, I do EVERYTHING a SAHM does PLUS I work, SAHMs are lazy, etc.[/b]

I just want to enjoy my life, make enough money that we can live fairly comfortably, get to spend time with my kid, and not stress too much. I learned a long time ago that my career is not that fulfilling, and motherhood offered me something more rewarding. So I seized that and just kind of finagled a solution on the work side. If we were independently wealthy, or my DH made a ton of money (he doesn’t, he makes around 100k which is less than I used to), I would not work at all, I’d write a novel or take up painting or volunteer at a museum.

Life is short and precious and I don’t want to spend it doing boring corporate work if I can avoid it, which it turns out I mostly can. [/quote]

Ha!  I feel you.

I like do like my job and work 1-2 evenings a week.  I started homeschooling my kids when the pandemic started and have continued because we have all been so happy with it.   I pretty much function as a homeschooling SAHM in my day to day life.  I don’t think the WOHMs want me as “one of them” either.  [/quote]

I love how the SAHMs constantly play the victim, complaining that the WOHMs are generalizing about them and then...generalize about WOHMs.

What is wrong with all of you people.  Can't you live and let live?  So many moms with so much insecurity.  Don't deny it.  If you were secure in your choices, you wouldn't feel the need to tear down the other side.  In fact, you wouldn't see it as being different sides.  You'd just see other moms each doing the best they can.[/quote]

Pp here who works PT evenings.  All I was saying was that you don’t consider me a WOHM.  It sounds like you don’t want those of us who work PT on your team.  ::Goes off to cry in the corner::[/quote]

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