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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the perception is that girls are easier to manage behaviorally. Im not saying that it’s true, but that is what people think.[/quote]

Ask any teacher. Girls are easier to manage than boys. Boys can make up for it by being held back a year in school though. [/quote]

The girls might be quieter but they are being ridiculously cruel and toxic to the other girls around them all day long with the looks, comments, gossip, sneering, put down, and sarcasm. I have 2 boys and 1 girl and the boys are infinitely easier and nicer to each other. The teachers are ignoring what they either don't see or claim not to see.[/quote]

This. Schools, and many parents, often only see overtly aggressive or mean behavior. But girls engage in a lot of covertly unkind behavior that never gets addressed or even acknowledged because it's designed to fly under the radar. And then they gaslight each other by claiming the gossip, excluding, backhanded compliments, etc., were unintentional and that the girl who is hurt is merely oversensitive or misunderstanding. It's jaw dropping, watching this behavior that I would find abhorrent in a 40 year old woman and some of these girls seem to have mastered it intuitively and deploy it on playgrounds and in friend groups without a second though.

I spend a lot of time talking to my daughter about why this behavior isn't okay, how to avoid it, how to avoid doing it, whether and how to call it out, etc. It's hard because so much of it happens under the surface, just quietly enforcing hierarchies and undermining one another's sense of confidence without appearing to be doing anything at all. Wild.[/quote]

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