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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is it wrong to often hang out alone, online and in person, with other man/woman when you're in a relationship? Is this fine if you are all long time friends? [/quote]

Only immature and insecure people worry about this. [/quote]

I disagree, it’s not the friendships that are the problem, but hanging out alone invites infidelity.  Infidelity is actually defined as the keeping of secrets and the opportunity to create secrets or change the dynamics of your relationship with the third party is high.  “We were just friends and then out of nowhere something happened” is more likely than most risky activities.  [b]Why take the risk of becoming that person? [/b] If protecting and developing your marriage is not your top priority, then you just aren’t ready for a monogamous relationship.[/quote]

Because the risk can be so low that it's not worth throwing away a friendship because of it?

I work from home now but had an event in my old building where my friend (and the husband of my friend and my husband's friend) works. I was done around lunch, texted him, and we went to lunch. I would be annoyed at my husband (and my friend, his wife) if they thought this wasn't ok. [/quote]

If it works for your marriage and you don’t have to hide anything in the friendship from your spouse, then you may be right.   After all, you might be the exception to the rule.[/quote]

They're not the exception. The ARE the rule.

These people who seem to think if opposite sex people spend time together they will inevitably shaboink are the ones with weird thinking and a poor grasp on reality. [/quote]

Or we've been around long enough to see multiple friends divorce over adultery that started out as "friendships". The longer you live, the more you call it like you see it. [/quote]

Or, you have main character syndrome and stupidly project what happened in your own little world with being the norm. It's not. [/quote]

It really doesn't matter what I think or project.  If your spouse is comfortable with your opposite sex friendship, then fine.  If they are not, then it's your choice to prioritize your marriage or your friendship and let the chips fall. [/quote]

And normal, mentally healthy people don't think there's a choice to be made here. That's my point. The only people who think there's risk have invalid feelings and thought processes.[/quote]

I agree with this.

Also, as a woman, I find it odd that some of you think I am automatically attracted to every straight man out there? I have plenty of male friends. Had I wanted to date them, I would have, but I didn't because I'm not attracted to them. That mindset is super weird to me. Do you people go around just wanting to bang every person of the opposite sex you walk by?[/quote]

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