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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All work is honorable and respectable. She is working 2 jobs and paying her bills. Be proud of her.[/quote]

I just worry about her longevity.  She doesn’t ever ask me for money but lives in a crowded apartment with her girlfriend and band mates.  She just had so much potential now it seems like she may as well have dropped out.  She’d be in the same place.[/quote]

OP, I understand where you're coming from and your worries about her future.

Have you read the book "Crying in H Mart?" It's by a musician (Michelle Zauner, goes by Japanese Breakfast), and it details her life after she graduates from Bryn Mawr and does exactly what your daughter is doing: Waitressing at a Mexican restaurant while trying to "make it" in the Philly punk scene with her band. It pretty accurately details how disappointed her mom was in her (I don't know if cultural elements are at play here, but Michelle Zauner's mom immigrated from Korea) and how she continued her passions anyways, even after her mother passes away.

It's a really powerful and moving elegy to a musician dealing with her mother's disappointment in her, and it has tons of compassion for both sides of this dilemma. Highly recommend. Even if your daughter doesn't become as famous as the author (which, let's be honest, probably won't happen), I think you'd benefit a lot from reading her "side."[/quote]

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