Reply to Is being low income at a top private an advantage this year?

Forum Index » College and University Discussion

Reply to "Is being low income at a top private an advantage this year?"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Curious how these kids do once they actually get to school. Based on what kids have told me, a lot of them are total fish out of water, cluster amongst themselves, don't really take advantage of the resources the school has, and suffer from impostor syndrome. There are definitely plenty who thrive, but a lot more who don't.

And they sit home on Saturday night because they can't afford to to to dinner, bars, frats with the other kids. So they miss out on the socializing/networking experience which is a huge but under-rated reason why you even go to these schools in the first place.

A lot of these kids are frankly skipping a step. Go to a really good state school where there will be more kids like you and make your way into middle class, which is a huge jump from where you were. Then your kids can make the next leap. That is how it used to be - I grew up in the NY area and my ancestors all grew up dirt poor, sent their kids to CUNY for free (back when it was really good), they became middle class, moved to the burbs and the best of their kids went to Ivies.[/quote]

The poors should know their place? And stay in it? Or at least not climb up faster than you? Because if their children do better than yours then they'll still be "fish out of water" and "not belong" right?[/quote]

Wow. Defensive, aren't we. I'm saying some kids are meant to make the leap. Some aren't. Lots of kids make the leap and do great. But many are either taking up space or actually do really poorly because it is too much for them. Know your kid. And the schools should know their applicants. Setting a kid up to fail to meet quotas is not doing them any favors. There are many who will succeed and that is incredible. But a lot of them don't. And lots of rich kids fail miserably also.[/quote]

It's true that some poor kids make the leap and do great, and some do not. But quite frankly one can say the same thing about privileged kids. If you know you do not really have to make your own way in the world, there is less fire under your feet to excel. Once all that scaffolding falls away and they are on their own, some of these kids really falter and have little drive. Know your kid.

[/quote]

Just to add, a lot of middle class kids falter too. And on second thought, it can be pretty hard to "know your kid" and predict how they will really do on their own. I have seen a lot of different types of kids struggle. [/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics