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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, OP ‘s family has been dealing with multiple problems.

1. Her parents are unhappy and unpleasant to be around. This is really sad to spend Christmas as prisoners to two unhappy, mean spirited and critical people.
2. The location being bad makes it even worse as OP’s family can’t experience and joy at the holiday. They are locked into the above dynamic with nothing to look forward to other than leaving.
3. If the location isn’t at a hub, requires connections, rental cars and lots of gas it can get very expensive.

I agree with others that you can invite to your house or on a cruise. If they decline, that’s their choice. Obligation done. For your own kids, give them a nice holiday.

Now I really really want to know what town this is or at least what state. There are only 16 cities in the US with a metro. They are in big cities, coastal cities, or Georgia, Texas. Since OP mentioned it isn’t warm and is a blue state and is expensive to travel I couldn’t find any city that isn’t a hub. Maybe OP meant light rail and it’s a town outside Portland or Connecticut . However Oregon is beautiful and OPs family could do many day trips. [/quote]

hahaha, I want to know too!  I can commiserate a bit because it sounds like DH's hometown and ILs' dynamic except ILs are two hours from the nearest airport/ any sizable city (no metro).  We rarely travel at the holidays there anymore, we pick a different time to go.  No one wants to travel to us for a holiday, ever.  Parents' health is starting to become an issue but it wasn't for the first 10 years we had kids, they just didn't want to come.   At least with my parents we can drive so we will often have Christmas at home and then drive there for a few days over the winter break.  But I'm just done prioritizing our time off and $$ when no one else will do the same in return.  [/quote]

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