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[quote=Anonymous]Our kids are grown so our family is beyond the difficult years you are experiencing, OP.  And they are really difficult when yoh don't have help.

Since I have a hoarder sister,  my belief is it's pretty much impossible to make anyone take responsibility for cleaning and organizing life.

You can teach and require kids do chores, and if you raise them in an organized and pleasant environment maybe they will choose to replicate that environment as adults.  But maybe not.  Parents don't really have all that much control over the outcome and adults can't really force other adults to do much, if anything.

I have always been the one who keeps our home clean and our lives organized.  But only because it's important to me to live that way. My philosophy is many tasks can be done in the length of time it takes to get someone else to do it, if they aren't already just doing it automatically.  When I needed family help, I asked, could you please do so and so? And then the person did it, and then i said, thank you.  And yes, I do all the bookkeeping, finances, calendar.

That worked for me. FWIW Good luck to you OP.

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