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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]At what age does this "playdate" stuff stop? I have 10 year old twin girls and a 7 year old daughter and they prefer to be each other's playmates. Noticed whenever we have playdates someone gets left out or the parent ends up staying and I have to entertain. It ends up being more work for me which I don't enjoy since I work a very high stress job and do not have much free time. I also don't enjoy meeting up with other families because we have to be accommodating and we miss out on certain things that our kids want to do.

Am I weird for thinking/feeling this way? I feel like people are always out and about together, but this time I have with my kids is so short, I just want to spend it with my husband and kids. What's a nice way to say no?

Thanks for letting me be weird and vent.[/quote]

Your family is normal.  A lot of this play date stuff is driven by parents of only children who kind of have to do it all the time or their kids get bored. You can decline most of the time without feeling guilty or do things at a park or public place. [/quote]

This. One of my kids is frequently requested as the play date to amuse her only child friends. I say yes some of the time but not all of the time. My kids play really well together and [b]the other kid gets upset when sister is gone (and it sucks for me because then I have to entertain the left behind kid[/b]). [/quote]

Ridiculous. [/quote]

+1  And nuts that the PP doesn't hear how her posts sounds.

Also, in my circle/area most families do playdates; it's not limited or more prevalent at all in families of only children. It's everyone. If OP or others don't have the bandwidth to allow their children to socialize, or for themselves to socialize, outside the family, then that sucks.  If it's "normal", then that is sad.

(But, OP, I will say that all our ES playdates are drop off.  It's unusual to hear that yours are not.  It would be a PITA to have to entertain random parents that are not my friends or hang around at the host's home while my kids have playdates.)  But again, that's not what happens around here.  I actually find that playdates can be helpful -- I drop off a kid, or if I'm hosting, the kids are happily playing and need very little from me.

Often times both of my kids will not have a playdate at the same time.  It's good for the other kid to learn how to entertain themselves -- go curl up on the couch and read a book, jeez![/quote]

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