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OP - You are at a crossroads - how to help your adult son take uncomfortable steps to move forward and not enable your adult sun to  sit and stew about life's hard luck turns!

[b]Health Insurance[/b]
- Get a clear idea of whether you son has health insurance or not.  If you can afford it, the one thing I would do is to see that he gets enrolled in the most appropriate health insurance coverage.  Why - because he is going to need health insurance to cover improved health care.

[b]Health Evaluation[/b]
- Set up a full physical with a doctor (yhour PCP if necessary) to rule out any possible physical ailment.
- Set up an evaluation with a psychiatrist to get a mental health evaluation with the clear expectation that DS will take any medication advised to help manage any diagnosed condition.
- While therapy may also be necessary, if funds are limited, then I would go for the mental health evaluation and medication management as that process in time should make DS benefit from realistic therapy if his underlying conditions are being handled.
- On Counseling that might be affordable, as his view of himself does seem to be related to career failure at age 37, perhaps look at area Community College and other public Career Services to see if there is any sort of FREE testing, job assessments and even group career counseling sessions available.

[b]Employment[/b]
- Refer him to the local Career Center to use any resources there on a review of his resume, job search information techniques, networking events etc.
-Update or setup a Linked In page.
- Have him check out any Career Resources which might be available through Georgetown University for alumni
- Based upon his skills sets see what jobs might be available and evaluate what he can handle right now - may be part-time would be best if he had the time to get to any counseling sessions et.
- Otherwise, he is to go out an make a connection to a volunteer agency -- Habitat for Humanity could be ideal with the option of physical jobs of all sorts!

[b]Daily Living Routine[/b]
- He absolutely should have a daily schedule set up with you to be up an out doing something - medical appointments, job related activities, a volunteer job and daily physical fitness activities.
- Be clear on the daily tasks in your home that he will be expected to do - laundry, room/bath upkeep, meal preparation, yard work - not to replace not having a job, but to be an adult in the household for a time.

[b]Your Financial Support [/b]
- There should be a clear idea of what financial support you are willing (and able) to provide and for how long if he take the appropriate steps to move himself along, too.  This can't be a time of "finding himself" because the longer he remains unemployed, likely the harder it will be to change his job status.  
- Help him to set up a budget including charging him a percentage of his income for rent (hopefully to save for a future deposit on an apartment)
- Also to get an evaluation of his credit record and how to improve it if low.

You may need to get a therapist who can help you deal with this specific issue and be ready to set limits on how to help, but not enable your adult son and possibly your own financial situation.  Also a local group NAMI may well be a resource to understand how a mental illness can impact an adult child and the parent(s) trying to help one.
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You also need a job.[/quote]

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