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[quote=Anonymous]I was like you and stayed working, but was able to do so remotely. So while I was really sad not to be a sahm, I felt it was a decent compromise if I was entirely remote and had some flexibility. Until now. My company is walking back on remote work like everyone else.

My kids are 7,4 and 1. I am probably going to leave my job within the year and try staying at home.

In some ways working gets harder as they get older. School is over by 3, lots of after school activities, homework, personalities and needs to manage. You need a driving nanny to bring them to activities, play dates etc and I’ve never been able to let go in that way. Even if you outsource, you still have to manage the scheduling and the help. The meal prep, the grocery shopping, the clothing shopping, the outgrown clothing storage, the toy organization and disposal. It’s a lot.

If you have three kids, it gets a lot more challenging because you have three schedules to manage commitments for, and to your point, your oldest will be in elementary school while the youngest is still a toddler requiring full time childcare.

It really comes down to whether you can afford to sacrifice your income and how much you want to retain your career. I’ve had trouble giving up mine but as companies walk back on flexibility, I’m finding it difficult to walk away from my kids. Also, I’m done having kids now - so I’d be home for all three of them at once, as opposed to if I’d stayed home from the get go before the second or third was born.

How old are you? I am 36 and have been maxing out my 401k for 13 years. I feel like I’ve done a chunk of the hard work already and my investments will grow via compound interest even if I leave my job. I’m not happy about losing my income, but at least if you continue to work and save when you’re young, the money will work for you if you decide to quit down the line. [/quote]

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