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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Sounds normal to me.  After she asked once I would have put the gift away.  Kids might be uncomfortable with new foods.[/quote]
I am getting so tired of the responses justifying all children’s bad behavior. So they ate four snacks but “might be uncomfortable with new foods”? Uh, ok. [/quote]

I think it's over the top to say that a kid asking if they can have chips or a cookie is rude.  You are well within your rights to say "no, we're having apple slices for snack" but the kid wanting a cookie just makes them a kid who has been given a cookie at a previous playdate and had high hopes.  (Or, worst case scenario, the kid was legitimately hungry and is being demonized for being excited about having access to what seemed like unlimited food, but I would hope that OP would be at least somewhat sensitive to that dynamic.)

OP, leaving out a new toy in a box during a playdate and saying that it cannot be played with is a poor choice.  If you don't want to play with it, you put it away before guests come over.  [/quote]
Asking for cookies as a fifth snack is rude, no matter how much you try to spin it. 
[b]It’s OK to say birthday gifts are off limits. [/b]
Again, you “gentle parents” are raising brats. [/quote]

[b]It truly is not okay to say that the toy you have on display during a playdate is off limits.  It's very socially inept, in fact.  [/b]OP and her daughter could be forgiven for not realizing they'd made that mistake, but by not putting it out of sight after the first request OP demonstrated that, like an upthread PP said, she's not very good at managing children.

Sounds like the kid was asking for cookies as a second snack and kept getting redirected to carrot sticks or whatever instead of just being told "no", which is OP's crappy attempt at . . . gentle parenting![/quote]
It truly IS OK to tell a ten year old that another child’s toy is off limits to them. 
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And 10 is PLENTY old to accept that answer the first time, not the “fourth or fifth time.”[/quote]

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