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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Are people really asking, "what do you do all day?" because honestly being a stay at home mom is really common. Are people really judging you or are you internalizing your own discomfort with not working? (Not judging, just asking)[/quote]
I wish people would believe women when they say this. Just because you wouldn’t say it, or maybe haven’t heard it uttered to another SAHM in your presence, doesn’t mean it doesn’t happen. It happens, all too frequently. It’s disgusting. I wish I had advice, OP, but I’m here in solidarity! [/quote]

+1 I've picked up part time work over the years, but never went back to my career pre-children. When kids were in MS I started getting a lot of questions about what I did with all of my "free time" and others would say something along the lines of being jealous of my freedom, etc. I learned to simply say "DH and I figured out a system for parenting that works for us." If someone really pressed, I might respond with a salty "[b]hey, I'm taking one for the team by volunteering at school etc since working moms can't always be here at the times they are needed."[/b]

OP, you don't owe anyone an explanation just because they ask. You have to do what makes sense for your family. [/quote]
Reinforcing misogynistic values shows everyone who you really are. [/quote]

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