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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think the biggest 'leg up' is being raised by parents who are mature adults with no significant personality disorders, substance abuse, etc.  We recently met with someone at our bank who mentioned that he deals with really wealthy families that often have one child with significant substance use, failure to launch etc.  issues and that they have to put procedures in place regarding inheritances, etc.  as a result.  I'm pretty sure the adult children with all the issues didn't get these issues completely on their own.  They might have inherited psychological issues or have them based on their upbringing.  I frequently wish I had been raised in a psychologically healthy family even if it meant I never went to a private college, etc.  Even if I ended up being an elementary school teacher back in my small hometown vs. my "prestigious career."  I think being happy and healthy and grounded and all that is really priceless. [/quote]

Absolutely this. I feel the same way about my own upbringing, and the older I get the more true this becomes. Even if you are academically and professionally successful, growing up with severe dysfunction means you will spend considerable amounts of your adulthood unwinding that dysfunction and trying to process and get past it. And that's if you're lucky enough to understand it and seek to get better -- some people just perpetuate the dysfunction and deal with the consequences, which involve having lots of terrible relationships and never feeling happy or satisfied with life.

If my kid grows up feeling like a worthwhile person who deserves to be happy, I consider it a win regardless of her income or the prestige of her career.[/quote]

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