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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]You could mediate and not have this much drama.

Split 50/50 of martial assets and custody and call it a day. It is not that hard. "Lawyering up" is expensive and causes unecessary drama.

He probably thought you would not be doing "document requests" because a lot of divorces are not done that way. It is not hard to divorce in a way that causes less stress. But both parties have to agree and be rational and not fight with attorneys.

It sounds like you are choosing the fighting way.

Most men don't divorce "out of the blue."

There is nothing to fight over. Split 50/50 of martial assets and custody. Sign the agreement and file with the court.

If you choose the lawyer up way, that is on you. Play stupid games...[/quote]

Unfortunately his mood when he filed was immediately to start hiding things. Including assets, bills, logins, etc.

So there is a lot do run down and it’s not a 50/50 situation. And he didn’t want 50/50 custody even though his attorney is using that as a boilerplate negotiating point so far. [/quote]

Oh for god's sake, no one should be married and not know their partner's logins and all assets.

When people do this, they are not in a marriage.

If you do not have these now do this today people male or female I don't care do it today. Make copies of everything. [/quote]

He changed logins for basic stuff before filing and/or added two-factor authentication for things we both had access to like our toll and electric bill.

Stock holdings that I am fully aware that were purchased with our marital assets but are held in a brokerage account in his name and show up in our joint tax return when shares have been sold are being hidden. He claims they were sold but won’t show me the brokerage statements showing that- only one statement from this month that shows a $0 balance.

Eventually we’ll receive the statements for our tax return that will show that everything was sold (or not).

This is probably the one area I’m willing to shell out for actual discovery because I think he shuffled those shares off somewhere right before filing.[/quote]

A friend just went through a divorce with a guy like this. Hid money and assets throughout their marriage. THey hired a forensic financial person and they were able to track those things down and she got half of everything. PLUS he had to pay her legal fees and some other things since he was such a PITA.[/quote]

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