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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is this a new trend? A generational thing?

I just heard from [b]yet another new grandparent that their daughter gave birth recently (within last few days) but hasn’t shared the name yet (just the gender) and hasn’t decided when they will allow the grandparents to see the baby/visit. No pictures yet either[/b] (because they don’t want anyone having pics to distribute).

FTR, this isn’t a family with strained relationships. I know both the grandparent and the new parents. It seems like a bizarre control issue that is uncharacteristic of what I’ve observed heretofore, which prompts me to wonder if this is some new thing moms are reading in new age parenting books or blogs?

So weird.

It has definitely changed my opinion of the new mom (who by all measures is a highly educated and accomplished woman). And I feel sorry for the grandparents. [/quote]

“Yet another” how many people in your life aren’t being told the baby names OP? You sound awfully dramatic about a baby who isn’t yours.

We didn’t have a name picked when we got to the hospital we had a top two, and decided to see what fit. My parents got an immediate picture when she was born to say all was well but probably didn’t hear her name until the next day or maybe even the following.

And as a member of the cohort who gave birth in COVID it was an open question when my parents would meet her because they had to quarantine for two weeks. Luckily they had started two weeks before my due date and she was a day late but if she had been early we would have had to wait.

Somehow through all of these tragic circumstances my parents and my daughter love each other like crazy. Hopefully these new grandparents are focused on what actually matters which is the healthy baby and the full recovery of the new mother.

It’s gross that you think differently of a highly educated and accomplished woman who gave birth a few days ago but luckily for her and her baby, it sounds like you’re just a spectator not someone important to her, and she can distance herself and her baby from your toxicity. [/quote]

You are making a lot of leaps, pp.

I assure you there’s no toxicity on my part. I’m just observing something that my family and friends find bizarre…and as we are comparing notes, we have seen this approach before.

It’s 2025, long past the covid days.

[b]And the baby arrived weeks ago, not mere days. [/b]

The parents have said they have a name…they just aren’t ready to share it yet. I mean, they aren’t celebrities. No clue why they feel compelled to build suspense prior to some big reveal.

Others are theorizing that the new mom is doing a photo shoot for the first pictures. That’s fine…but most people would still share a picture with the grandparents and siblings of the parents. One sibling has made clear the mom went a little kooky during the pregnancy and has become obsessed with planning and documenting everything. [/quote]

In your OP, you said the baby was born a few days ago. You're full of it.[/quote]

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