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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]We have about 20 families we are close with. Initiate group dinners at family friendly places is a good one to get the parents involved. I’ll text our baseball team and say “anyone want to meet for Pizza” after practice especially if it’s a Friday or Sat/Sun. Usually half the team goes. I met most when the kids were babies in our neighborhood though. The ones I am close with after is by being helpful or offering to share carpools for activities. [/quote]

If you're CLOSE with 20 families how many are acquaintances?[/quote]

We have about the same acquaintances. The 20 families are people I talk to on a regular basis and we travel with on overnight trips with their families every year, it’s 4 separate trips. [/quote]

you travel overnight with 20 different families over the course of an average year?  I call bullshit unless it's travel sports.[/quote]

Not travel sports, we have know the families for over 7 years. [/quote]

you have been going on four trips a year with a combined 20 families and have been doing this with those same families for 7 years.  is that what you're saying?  that would be weird AF if it were true, but it isn't true.  these aren't informal "friend" trips -- they are some kind of organized activity for the kids, which is not the same thing at all[/quote]

We got every year to the same beach, get 3 houses next to each other with one group for 4 nights. 5 years. 7 families

Do a couples weekend to a different location with 8 couples.

We go to one’s ski house with 4 families a long weekend.

I do a girls trip with 13 of the moms every year for 3-4 nights. An overnight at a spa hotel and we have done a few longer.

we travel with our own family most of the time and with friends who don’t have any kid overlap.  [/quote]

This is so weird. OP, disregard this weirdo. This is not typical and not all of those 20 families are really true friends. [/quote]

Why are you calling that person a weirdo?

I have a few group of friends we travel with. In the younger years, we did stuff like that, not 13 moms, more like 4-6 moms.

My oldest is now a teenager and I miss those earlier years when we would all just go to the beach or any trip together. We bought a beach house recently and we have been having 3-4 groups of friends go with us per year. We go on a ski trip with friends once a year.

PP isn’t as weird as you are suggesting. Some people are more social than others.

I often see families travel with cousins and friends. It isn’t so weird to also have close friends to travel with. I come from a very small family as my extended family lives overseas. I have more close friends or we say friends like family.[/quote]

I'm part of a group of 4 families that travel together several times a year.  (Two of the families own vacation properties, so that is some of the travel.)   We met when each of our oldest child was in preschool together.  Meeting friends through preschool is such a different ballgame than ES age.  Everyone -- particularly if its their first kid -- seems so thirsty to make friends, and they are less busy with their kids' bazillion activities during those early years.  Our kids aren't even really close friends anymore (they went on to different ESs); these are genuine friendships -- we met through preschool but grew to connect as people not just parents.  That took work and effort, BTW.  [/quote]

OP here - I agree with your comment about meeting friends through preschool! I found it quite easy to get to know other parents through daycares/preschools where we used to live, especially since many of the parents we met were on their first kid (just like us). But here, seems like, in my kid's class at least, there are way more kids with older siblings for whatever reason, so I get that they don't have time or energy to coordinate an active social life for their youngest kid.

I also agree with others' comments about keeping my social life and my kids' separate. Tbh I'm not looking for a best friend here; I think at this stage of my life I would love to just find other families that we click with and where our kids also get along, and if the time we spend together is just hanging out as families at each other's houses or on trips, that's totally fine with me. I don't really need a buddy to get lunch or go the spa with; I don't have much time outside work and taking care of kids anyways.[/quote]

I’m the PP PP oldest a teen now. One of my closest friend that I met when kids were young moved with elementary kids. She is one of the friendliest nicest people I have ever met and she is having a hard time making friends in her forties with elementary aged kids. She said everyone seems to already have established friends and hard to break through. Play dates are not whole family affairs in elementary. Birthday parties don’t include parents.

I have 3 kids with different interests. My middle child is the most social, in the most teams including various travel sports. You really bond when you go away together for tournaments staying in same hotel, eating together, cheering kids on.

I also recommend scouts. I’m currently a scout leader for my youngest and I have gotten know all the parents. Again, the overnights is where you bond when you spend a lot of time together.[/quote]

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