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[quote=Anonymous]My husband doesn't throw things or name call or yell much (he raises his voice) but he's black and white in his thinking and I get the eggshells thing. I really really get it.

It's incredibly odd and hard to explain because he's a great guy, a very fair and justice-minded person, yet at home he can not admit when he is wrong (even small things, which just screams childhood stuff to me) and he operates in a way where he is entirely above criticism. It's incredibly frustrating, but also kind of sad?

Over the years (20+ marriage) I have learned that staying emotionally neutral and calmly explaining why he is being unreasonable, and leaving it at that (repeating if necessary), is the best way to get through it. Earlier in our marriage I would get more emotional and that is NOT the way to go with a person like this. I also understand him better now, and find that his outbursts don't really phase me (like I can walk away and go do what I was doing...if I even stopped doing it...with no physical or emotional effects). It's just his quirk.

What I am most concerned about is that our son doesn't grow to be like this and so far all signs point to him being the opposite which is such a relief, to see him emotionally healthy. I think this is also good for my husband to see...not much is more humbling than a teenage boy coolly telling you why you are being unreasonable and how you can be kinder and more level-headed. [/quote]

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