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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Op can whine all he wants. 
He had a spouse holding down the fort at home, kids, trips, schedules, health, holidays, social events, school, sports, and college apps…. so all he had to really focus on what his work and career advancements. And show up for some tasks and events here and there - like a 7pm pick up or weekend game.

That’s what courts will see and know happened for 20.

OP can either figure out why his wife is actually upset or keep whining.[/quote]

Not accurate. I did a ton of the household stuff, grocery shopping, organizing closets, cooking.  Coached when they were young, was team manager, handled a ton of the scheduling have handled a good chunk of the college stuff and the majority of the travel for sports.

Our plan was always for her to be a stay at home mom until kids hit middle school, they she would get a job again, nothing high stress, but enough to contribute, in a perfect world something with health insurance and a decent retirement savings package.  It didn’t happen until 10th grade and is now like 10 hours a week.  So yes she has not kept up her end of what we discussed pre marriage and when we started having kids.

And the paychecks went into “her” account because she made it and it’s her money, zero of it went towards house, car, insurance, utilities.   And then she was 1099’ed so the tax liabilities basically fell on me for “her” money fell on me.

It’s all a mess.  Her family has strong history of ADHD and Narcisism, which I didn’t know about for quite a while and as she has gotten older the signs of both are much greater.   
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Discussed pre marriage and pre kids!!?

Dude, get a grip.

Unless you continually talked about this and helped that glidepath, you are way out of it here. And now yours complaining that her after tax income “doesn’t make sense”.  DUH. [/quote]

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