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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]How long would someone put up with it?  I have 3 kids all about to be in college, wife was supposed to go back to work when they all reached middle school.  She didn't, kept coming up with reasons why not.  We live in expensive zip code, have kids in private school and did the whole travel sports thing (which is ridiculously expensive in and of itself.  Wife went back to work part time 30 ish hours a week when kids were about half done with HS and now works part time 10-15 hours a week, I told her that working until the kids all graduate from college would be ideal and allow us to get through with minimal extra debt or student loans, 429 won't cover everything for them and we don't have parents that are contributing to any of this stuff, so its 100% on us.  I am told constantly that I have "ruined her life", that she is 50 and shouldn't have to work anymore and that none of her friends work, which is sort of true.  We have some very wealthy friends and we have friends where the women made a lot of money early in career, one was a stock broker the other partner in a Dr Office.   We also have friends where they are legitimate duel income households with both spouses contributing greatly.   I keep getting told, "making money is your job, you have ruined my life."

On top of the ruining her life for wanting her to work until she is 55 ish, I am now told I am ruining her life because I don't want to spend 7 or 8 thousand dollars for our family to go to NY and watch Ovi hopefully get the all time goals record.  Next week I will have ruined her life in some other way.  I am just over it.   I have told her that if she really feels I am ruining her life she should contact a divorce attorney, but she won't.   [/quote]

She sounds spoiled and in a mid life crisis, probably upset she is losing her looks and feeling depressed.

Have no advice to give you other than be firm with her and call her out on her emotional tantrums rather than enabling or validating them. She will respect you at the very least if do that. [/quote]

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