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[quote=Anonymous]I can see the path you are on, OP. This will be more problematic down the road when there are spouses and grandkids.

My husband and his sister have enmeshment problems with their mom and it has caused a lot of stress through our marriage but particularly after having kids. Because their family is “close”, my MIL and SIL have very high expectations for their involvement in our lives and the kids lives. They have no concept of boundaries because they view close families as willing to do anything for each other and not needing to ask. If we say no or want to do something as a family alone, we are met with guilt and resentment. If I establish boundaries that attempt to maintain any sense of schedule or routine for the kids, they act like we are depriving them of having a relationship with the kids. MIL still wants to operate like she is raising her family but her kids are adults with their own lives.

Interestingly, SIL is single, never had any kind of serious relationship, and is in mid-40s. I attribute this fact to the family enmeshment.

Kudos for recognizing and having awareness of the issue. Allow them to have their own lives and make their own decisions.

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