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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]As a non-divorced person, this thread does not comport with my observations.  Generally, the few divorced women I know (because nearly my entire peer network remains married) all traded down in the quality of man with whom they would associate.  Perhaps for those dumb enough to choose beaters and addicts, the options are better after divorce.

One nearly universal outcome is that the children do not benefit.  Divorce is often a selfish act--look at all the "me, me, me" discussion in this thread with nary a peep about the children.  [/quote]

Please stop assuming all divorces are the same. My kids are better off in many ways. For them, financially, no change. In fact, we put them in private Catholic school after a divorce, which never would have happened if we had stayed married. I was not allowed to have a say married because of a controlling person. I see my kids almost every day. In general, yes, it is bad for kids but not all divorces are the same. Coparenting is better than single parenting while working full time while married. Divorce made their dad step up and be an actual parent. My kids get very annoyed when they feel like kids feel sorry for them. They have a great life. College is paid for. They have two nice houses. They see us all the time. I was thinking of my kids when I divorced...I could not let them grow up in a househould where their parents either fought or never spoke. I did not want them to think that kind of marriage was normal.

I have no trouble dating in my mid-40s. Plenty of options.[/quote]

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