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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Reality check:  
I know in this case, I'd let my kid choose, and be very surprised if he chose a wedding over his sport. [/quote]Is this really what modern parenting is?

I was raised that family was actually importent. Had I, a 14 year old, decided trying to go varsity was more importent then a reletive's wedding, my dad would whoop my ass.

OP: the fact your sister is letting her son bail shows just how much she cares about you and your wedding. Use it to decide whether her and family will be invited to other family events.[/quote]

+1000[/quote]
Oh yea, nephew does not come so her sister does not care about her.
How asinine is that??!
[b]Stuff happens everyone cannot come to every family member's event.
Some of you are truly exacting about what is acceptable .[/b]
Geez calm down.. Sister is coming 
Try being happy about that[/quote]

Honestly, as PP, if someone decided that some damn soccer match was more important then my wedding, I would be greatly offended.[/quote]

[b]Greatly[/b] offended?

I'm with the stuff happens poster.  I don't waste my time getting "greatly offended" about things like this.  Yes, it would be better if the kid came to the wedding.  But "greatly offended"?  I would be damned if I would let something so secondary dampen my enthusiasm for my own wedding.  It just isn't worth it.  I am not the center of my nephew's universe.  I offend my SIL all the time, and she me (we have absolutely nothing in common and don't understand each other at all). Isn't it great, though, that the two of us are committed to keep on trying and to keep on being loving? Isn't it great that we just shrug and move on?  Life is way, way, way too short for "greatly offended," or to use this as a litmus test of the sister's love.[/quote]

OP here. Agree with your last two sentences and that's how we've done it so far (always striving and I'd say successful) and will do it moving forward. Hiccups are expected in what will be my only cradle to grave relationship. Again thank you to everyone who commented. It's all been helpful for me. 
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