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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Could there be processes that get guns temporarily confiscated during family law proceedings if there has been red flag behaviors like alcoholism and fights?  Just getting rid of the easy access might help in situations like this. [/quote]

Virginia has red flag laws. But someone has to feel [i]comfortable[/i] making the report without fear of retaliation. The person responsible for half your kids' tuition and the mortgage - you comfortable reporting on them?[/quote]

She was a dentist, FFS. Of course she could afford to walk away, rent a small apartment, either cover kids' tuition by herself or put them into public school for a period of divorce. This is really bothers me - according to the article, she knew he purchased the gun in 2022. She knew for at least several months he was heavy drinker. She knew that he does not value human lives. Why was she staying in the same house with him? [/quote]

DV survivor. No you absolutely cannot do this. It's called kidnapping and a court would eviscerate you for taking such drastic actions. An abusive partner will use the courts to attempt to take the kids from you too. [/quote]

+1. You are often advised to not leave the house. And then parents are often awarded 50/50 custody.  So a worry of a lot of parents is that the other one has the kids in a bad situation alone. That’s not good either.  We are all just guessing and either way- this situation is terrible for those children.  Don’t look back and say why didn’t she do this. That’s not helpful to the kids.  [/quote]

I know nothing about the actual situation. But it is absolutely incorrect to say that a domestic violence victim cannot legally move out with the kids. Please consult actual lawyers and DV advocates, not the internet. [/quote]

The previous poster was advising kidnapping the kids[/quote]

It’s not “kidnapping” if you are protecting the kids from imminent violence and/or you get emergency custody orders. And yes consult with lawyers. [/quote]

I have been in a similar situation and did consult multiple lawyers and the law works against keeping women and children safe in these situations. I also couldn’t just disappear and change our identity. I had to keep working so that my kids had a roof over their heads and childcare and food, etc. My husband also had access to multiple guns, a diagnosed mental health disorder, and many other risk factors for violence, and I was still told that I had to work with him to make a plan for him to see the kids. The judge (in Virginia) told me, when I applied for a restraining order, that he had to follow the Virginia code and it specified that he would need to see evidence of blood, broken bones, or other injuries. Just being scared that violence will occur doesn’t count. You have to wait for the violence to occur to get the restraining order and hope that it is not fatal. And then even if you have a restraining order, a determined man will usually find a way to assault or kill a woman if he wants to, because the court forces her to interact with him when there is shared custody (which there always is, unless the father doesn’t want it, and they usually do so that they can continue to use the kids to exert control over the mother. Abusive husbands are equally or abusive during separation and after divorce. It doesn’t stop. These men destroy women’s lives and there are days when I have wished for death over dealing with my ex’s abuse for the remainder of his life. [/quote]

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