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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Question - "How many women here divorced primarily due to imbalanced, unsustainable home workload?"

None.  It is a staffing issue, not a relationship one. Not a problem, just an expense.

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I'm all for outsourcing for cooking, cleaning, landscaping, etc but that's only part of it.

A housekeeper doesn’t fix the mental load, the planning, the remembering, the emotional labor, or the resentment that builds when one person is treated like the default parent or manager of all the things.

Calling it “just an expense” is a lazy way to avoid accountability. And yeah, it’s a problem.[/quote]

Agree.

No one but you is really going to care about your kids’ nutrition, study habits, conversation skills, or posture but a parent or maybe a grandparent (if they’re not the candy and sweets all the time type).

They certainly don’t care to proactively organize your kitchen better or find the best groceries or go above & beyond to find the best AAU basketball teams to try out for in middle school. Or wonder if your kid needs a dermatologist or braces again.

Outsourcing is for brainless, repetitive stuff, and even then you have to hire and manage it to avoider shirters. Eg. Last week our pool guy called and said he “can’t get to our house, and he’ll see us next week.” We said WTf do you mean, get over there. Our block was getting stripped and he didn’t want to enter from the alley or walk w a bucket 3 houses from the side road.  We called him out and he went back and did his job.

Now repeat that level of cutting corners and non-care times the lawn, grocery shopper, kid driver, sitters, tutors, house cleaners, tree trimmers, etc.

The dumb, uninvolved, lazy rich customers get the least effort and highest prices. For sure. [/quote]

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