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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I really want to know how other parents are managing RTO without a village.

I quit a job that paid $112K in the state government because of RTO, and we had no support network - no grandparents, friends, or family who could help with pick-up/drop-off or sick days.

My husband is gone from 4AM - 4PM in a secure, union job. I am solely responsible for school drop-off, pickup, and sick days. I was managing a full-time, supervisory position in the government, which was becoming incredibly challenging. When I looked at our finances, I could have enrolled our son in a before/after school care program or hired a nanny, which would cost us roughly $2000/month. This would mean he is at school from 7 AM - 4PM to allow for commute times. My son struggled to adjust to a full-time Kindergarten schedule from 8:30 - 3 PM, and his teacher suggested half days. (He is in an affordable private school)

My manager wanted me to come into the office for 2 days/week. This would mean I leave the house at 6:45 AM to get to work on time by 7:45 for an 8AM start. I was in a supervisory role that required me to train my staff. But we couldn't leave the office once we were there. So that meant I was there for 2 days/week, with my butt in a seat, and then had to compress my staff's training schedule to 3 other days/week. I had five staff in training who all needed extensive support.

So, I quit. I took a significant pay cut and am now making $30/hr in the private sector. I now have fewer retirement contributions but plan to return to a full-time, salaried base position when my son is old enough to stay home alone for a few hours. However, my office is home-based, and I have 2-3 hours of work meetings with clients in the field. I also make my own schedule and work 30 hours/week. My take-home pay is significantly less, but my son is happy to have me drop him off, and I can always be there for sick days. Before, I was scrambling to get everything done.

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No sympathy

Had to take care of 2 kids while wife commuted into the city from Burke.

We barely made it.  It is tough.

Someone has to have a “mommy job”.

Get over yourself [/quote]
+1

My wife had to quit her job when our second was born. I had to commute an hour each way because that's what I could afford. Some months were tough and we didn't have enough and had to use the credit card. I kept working hard up get promotions to move closer to work.

I just roll my eyes when people complain that they can't pick up their kids or leave them nn the other room when they're working. Ridiculous. [/quote]

So, just because you had a hard time when your kids were little you are of the belief that everyone should have hard time? There is total lack of empathy and compassion in this country, no wonder we are where we are.

I am not a Fed but at one time I was a mom with young kids, I commuted 3 hrs everyday, between part time nanny and all ups and downs that come with that arrangement, we barely made it. DH had an equally tough commute. Personally, if I can make life better for parents with young kids, I will and I should. A mom of an elementary schooler on my team has been given 3days WFH instead of our usual 2. This way her husband and her can manage kids without losing their minds, and she is my best performer.

Give people reasons to perform better, to look forward to something positive and they will exceed expectations. We should all support and create a society that provides support to parents and young children. This way when your kids grow up, they won’t have to face what you did.[/quote]

You clearly made more money than some of us.  A part time nanny, let alone a full time nanny would have been more than my take home.  [/quote]

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