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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don’t understand this. Since when does taking off shoes equal barefoot? Don’t people wear socks (most of the times)? If being barefoot makes you so uncomfortable, just wear socks. [/quote]

Socks are a slipping invitation.  I know someone who slipped and broke collar bone wearing socks at a "no shoes home" party. Why can't you just vacuum your floors after party like the rest of us?[/quote]
LOL again, something that never happened.

My gosh, americans are just cowering in fear of removing their shoes lest they get some horrific disease or break bones? GMAFB. Making up sh!t like this doesnt make your position stronger, it weakens it that you have to go to such extreme lengths to try and smear it. [/quote]

Then be a sh!tty host. People have told you they don’t want to take their shoes off but you’re going to insist they do anyway. There’s terrible hosting. So do what you want but you’re not in the right here. You’re making your guests uncomfortable on purpose. [/quote]

NP.

No- sorry not sorry.  Those are terrible guests for not removing shoes when requested.

People who dislike removing shoes in this situation are culturally insensitive.  Maybe even borderline racists.[/quote]

Ha, ok. You want to win because you think you can call people racist for not removing their shoes with no warning in a situation that is not expected (this is not an open house). You're not right and you're not better. You are, however, welcome to ask people to take their shoes off. And they are welcome to respond as they wish. [/quote]

But it my house my rules. You can back da f away [/quote]

DP but how do you not understand that the attitude of your response (my house my rules if you’re uncomfortable back da f away) is basically the definition of being a terrible host?  Good hosts prioritize the comfort of their GUESTS, not themselves.

So as multiple people have said, if you’re not prepared to be a good host, just don’t host.  Problem solved.[/quote]
You keep forgetting that people need to be good GUESTS too. Saying "my shoes stay on no matter what" is just as poor of an attitude for a guest to have in someone elses home. [/quote]

How your guests may or may not hypothetically behave has nothing whatsoever to do with whether you are being a good host.  If you can ONLY act like a good host if all of your guests are perfectly behaved (according to your own rules of acceptable behavior) then you are NOT a good host.

To be fair, no one is obligated to host anything.  If you don’t care at all about your guest’s comfort (which you clearly don’t) then just.don’t.host.[/quote]
I just disagree that asking someone to remove their shoes inside your home is automatically considered being a bad host. Being a host AND being a guest come with general etiquette and responsibilities. If you are shaming one side, you really ought to be shaming the other side, and all the people who are horrible guests in other's homes. [/quote]

Asking someone at a social function like a dinner to take their shoes off with no warning is rude. If we lived in a country where everyone took their shoes off all the time, you wouldn't have to ask because it would be expected. But here it is not the norm in many social circles. So unless you know all your guests would be expecting to remove their shoes (in which case you wouldn't have to ask...), if you fail to alert them to it ahead of time, it is indeed rude. If you warn people before the party and they still insist on wearing their shoes, then that is rude of them (barring a physical disability issue). But I have never been to a party where people have been asked to take their shoes off. Not once. And a lot of people have said the same thing. [/quote]

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