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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Here is what I don't get about the SAHMs and the vast majority of the posts.

There is some underlying insecurity or feeling of less worth...[b]nearly all the posts justify not working to take care of the kids and manage household chores.[/b]

So, either you feel like you need to present that to DCUM or you really think that way.

I mean, the trust fund baby has no problem saying they are a "philanthropist" or the progeny of the Disney or Johnson & Johnson family have no problem doing the same.

Why can't you just say if given the option between working or not working with absolutely no change in lifestyle...I opt for not working?[/quote]

Well, if there were no kids to take care of, I imagine they'd work. It's just that the logistics involved in having kids makes the difference between whether or not it's worth it to work.

And I think you only see laundry lists of the things SAHMs do in response to comments like "I have no idea what SAHMs do all day!" or "SAHMs just sit around all day." [b]I don't think that any SAHM thinks she is actually as busy as a working mom (barring special circumstances),[/b] it's just that it's also not a life of leisure like that of a socialite. Nuance, you know?[/quote]

Are you new here?!?[/quote]

Ha, no. I meant a SAHM with kids in school, though. [/quote]

I feel like I've seen plenty of posts, including those here today (I only have five hours a day while my kids are at school but I'm so busy chopping vegetables and going to the spa during that time!) that definitely sound like those SAHMs think they're busy. With all the defensiveness in those posts, it's hard to say that they would admit they're not as busy as working moms.

I think the whole SAHM/WOHM debate is stupid. Do what you want to do and what works best for your family. The happy people I know are the ones doing that, regardless of whether they stay home or work. The ones who feel like they don't have a choice (i.e. they can't afford to not work or they have to stay home because their husbands suck), those are the ones who get upset. I'm perfectly happy with the choices I have made so I don't care if someone else doesn't agree because what I do doesn't affect them.[/quote]

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