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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Everyone contributes to society, what's the difference between raising your children, caring for your parents and managing your household vs doing it for money as an employee?[/quote]

For me it’s because once kids were in school there was not much “raising kids/caring for parents/managing household “ to do. [/quote]

I’m always surprised when people say this.  I don’t think that my day to day changed that much when my youngest went to school.  I just didn’t have my little buddy with me anymore.

I guess I don’t go to the zoo as much, but it’s not like I was spending hours a day playing CandyLand with a four year old before he went to school.  [/quote]
You don't think your day to day changed when you arent responsible for a human for most of the day? That's a huge difference to me![/quote]

I’m still ultimately responsible for all of my kids every day.  
But yeah, it isn’t that different.  
Now I go go book club on Thursday mornings on my own.  I don’t have to bring stickers.  
When I fold laundry, I listen to an audiobook instead of his little stories, and I have to match the socks myself.  
I usually make dinner on my own without my little helper.  (There’s too much going on after school to cook then.).

I mostly kind of miss him.  [/quote]

Sounds like you don’t do much of anything. [/quote]

She cooks and cleans and takes care of her children after school. That’s plenty. [/quote]

DP here. I have 3 kids in 3 different schools. I basically have 5 hours from last kid drop off to first kid ending school. I work out, shower, run errands, cook, clean up, etc. There isn’t that much time left. I do meet up with a friend for lunch or go to the spa but it is like once per week.[/quote]

Your time management skills are severely lacking. I guess it's good you don't have to work because it doesn't sound like you'd make it through a day. [/quote]
So much hate! How do you know that her time management skills are lacking?

You’d put all three kids in the same school, right? Because you’re so brilliant, yeah? That actually sounds lazy to me. Maybe she’s chosen to make her life a little more difficult to put each kid at the best place for that child. She’s doing it because she can and she wants the best fit for all three.

For a third party like me, it’s obvious that you are seething with jealousy that you do not have the resources to send your kids to three different schools. [/quote]

No it's pretty obvious she has 5 hours a day, but can't get anything done. Poor time management is most likely it.  I say that as SAHM . I see many other SAHM claim it's just so hard and they don't have time for anything it almost always comes down to poor time management or undiagnosed depression and ADHD  both of which have a time management component [/quote]

What exactly am I not getting done? I have three kids and take care of them. I keep our house going. I am not saying I am doing anything more. I am planning a birthday party for one of my kids, spring break and summer.

I have plenty of time. What I don’t have time for is a full time job in my 5 hours the kids are at school. I like working out daily after kids are at school. I am not the type to wake up at 5am to work out before everyone wakes up. By the time I shower after exercise, clean up breakfast, it is already lunchtime. Then I have 2 hours before first kid gets out of school.[/quote]

I am a fellow SAHM. I think it just boils down to phrasing. People get very prickly on here when you say you “can’t” work or “don’t have time.” Just say you could but choose not to and it works best for your family this way. Saying you don’t have time implies you think they are somehow short-changing someone and that is where they get defensive. [/quote]

It is hard for me to see how my post is offensive to anyone. I have a husband who works a lot. He is hands on when he is around but his hours are unpredictable. I used to work and had no time for myself, felt I didn’t spend enough time with my kids and did not like the go go go lifestyle. I have five hours and between exercise, errands, cleaning up and getting food ready for dinner, there isn’t that much free time left. It is hard for me to understand why this would offend anyone. I said once a week I may have lunch with a friend and I do go to the spa or nail salon once per week. I do not pretend to be super busy or doing anything more. I am active at my kids’ schools.[/quote]

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