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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP is the biggest drama llama.

I feel for her child.

DH is most likely to remarry, hopefully it will be to someone warm.

OP will be bitter for the rest of her life, it's her nature and she combatively defends it. No quality guy will want to be with someone like her, she will just get worse with age and with no introspection. [/quote]

You're nuts. She's in a bad situation that would make almost anyone bitter because she lives with someone who is supposed to be her partner but treats her and her time with contempt. If the situation improves, like if the husband gets better or she leaves, she'll be a happier person. [/quote]

Take your focus off OP's framing and look at the 3 yr old who tried to connect with mommy, rebuffed to score points, and whose father left without a goodbye, again to score points in the toxicity with OP.

[b]OP's sense of self is rooted in being a martyr, that is why she makes extra errands and does not do amazon, etc (free delivery!)[/b] Once DH is gone as a primary focus, she will be the martyr re: her daughter and to some extent, probably, always ex-DH.

OP and her DH both suck. They use the kid as a pawn even now. No emotional ties to spouse, kid, others are mentioned, just a grinding focus on amplified work on the one hand and you can't make me on the other.

What feelings of warmth and joy are being created for the kid? What friends and social life surround the family? Just toxicity, isolation, screens and "enrichment" seems like. One narc parent is tough, 2 and it really is not a happy home life for the kid.

No solutions can be entertained, like Amazon, bc martyr is OP's power. [/quote]

I'm not going to bother to scroll through over 30 pages of responses, but I'm pretty sure the errands OP mentioned were Trader Joe's (which, as far as I know, does not participate in Instacart or Ship't or something similar and does have specific items that you can't find at other grocery stores) and Amazon RETURNS, which are not the same thing as ordering from Amazon and you will be charged for the UPS pick up option.

I am a huge delivery person - I order pretty much everything for my entire life online, but I also know that some things need to be bought in person, and it sounds like that's what OP was doing, not "making extra errands."

Also, I'm not one of the people who have posted who is hardcore team OP, but some of you just make stuff up to prove your points and it's annoying.[/quote]

Does UPS or Trader Joe's ban children from their premises? That could be done in the afternoon with the kid and thus not encroaching on hair washing time.[/quote]

STOP MOVING THE GOALPOSTS

The post I responded to was about how OP is "making up extra chores". I explained that that isn't what she was doing.

Now you want to harp on the fact that those stores allow kids? That wasn't the point to which I responded.

Also, as far as not taking her kid on errands, OP said she chose to do enriching things like going to a museum.

I CANNOT BELIEVE YOU PEOPLE ARE YELLING AT OP FOR NOT DRAGGING HER KID ON ERRANDS BUT INSTEAD USING HER TIME TO DO THOSE THINGS.[/quote]

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