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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I find it interesting that families who save no money and benefit from need based full rides and families with too much money to even worry about college cost, have the guts to judge families who work, save, pay and struggle for everything in their lives.[/quote]

I’ve even started to tune out the choices people because it’s gotten ridiculous.  At this point you can say anything is a choice I mean buying food to eat is a choice, that money could have been used for college.

I fully recognize that my kids will not be able to attend the same college that I was able to attend on heavy financial aid.  So I don’t  begrudge the need based full ride because that was me and I believe the top schools can make a difference in outcomes for economically disadvantaged students more than for middle and upper class students.  [b]I do find the judgement interesting when I feel like “ there but for the grace of God go I” as far as financial situations not being set and having many journeys for why people are where they are and not all being within their control.[/b]

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DCUm is the worst when it comes to owning up to the fact that success is so much more than just work ethic and making the right choices.  Be it parenting, money, marriage, whatever.  There is so much judgement everywhere. I just ignore these people because a) I think a lot of them are anxious and can't bear the possibility that they are less in control of their lives than they think and b) there is limited self-awareness and trying to point out different perspectives is pointless. [/quote]

But this isn't really about not having money. No one is arguing against giving aid to needy families. It's about having money, but not so much that you can afford any school your kid can get into, and being mad schools won't make up the difference.

My eldest kid is only 10. I don't know for sure what will happen between then and now. But I know whatever happens, we will match our budget with the kids' options, and not whine about it. [/quote]

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