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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Yes 41 is too old to have a baby if you are actually thinking about the child and not your own selfish desires. You'll be nearly 60 when that child reaches adulthood. You made the choice to put off having children for whatever reasons (career, traveling, enjoying your life, whatever) and by having a child at 41 you deny your own child that choice. Like it or not, if you have a kid that late, you are dooming them to have to take your care into consideration when they make life choices they should be able to make freely. [/quote]

I know this comment is 8 months old, but thought it still important to respond.

PP, I'm sorry that you have such a sickly line; I can see why you are so cautious about having children young.  Do a lot of your family die young?

My family is particularly long lived.  My parents are quite healthy at 90 and 84.   Most of my aunts and uncles (my parents were each one of  9) lived well into their 80s.  My mother still works at 84 because she wants to and loves what she does.  They still have a positive cash flow and have a very large net worth.  They already have their estate in quite good order and have more than enough to pay for in home elder care for themselves without costing us kids anything.  Even if they have in home elder care for 10+ years, there will still be a reasonable estate left to us, but all of us are well educated, have good jobs and have our own safety nets so we don't need the inheritance.  My MIL is still healthy and traveling extensively at 85 and her sister is going strong at 88, driving herself around the country doing her genealogy work.   My FIL passed away from a heart condition, but my spouse does not have any heart issues nor do our children.

We married late and had children late.  But we are quite healthy and have a history of longevity.  Since I know several folks from less healthy families that died in their 50s from health issues, I would say that your comments are misplaced.  Maybe those who have healthy family lines should be free to procreate and those who come from families with health issues should not.  That would be more appropriate than trying to arbitrarily impose some limitation of age at 60 just because your family does not age well.[/quote]

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