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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m a SAHM. My youngest is a senior.  DH has been mostly supportive. I do not regret being home but I have been unable to break back into the workforce. I tried a few years ago and didn’t land more than a handful of interviews and wound up very underemployed. Eventually, I quit. So make sure you understand the risks! Nowadays, it can be scary to depend on a man. I hope DD will keep working when she becomes a parent for her own security. I love DH but I would be in trouble if he walked out.

How did I get DH to support the idea? I didn’t set out to be a SAHM when we dated. My own mom worked. But I did always think it sounded like it could be nice so we bought our first home on one income so we’d have the option. When I did actually get pregnant, we realized how expensive a nanny would be relative to my salary, so we started to seriously consider my quitting.  To reassure DH we could get by, we put all my salary in savings to see what life was like on one paycheck. It went well so we figured I’d stay home until K. It wasn’t without sacrifices. No fancy cars or trips. No shows or concerts. But we didn’t mind. However, the timeline reset with each child. DH really valued my contributions and how it made everyone’s life less stressful so it worked out. But in recent years with an uncertain economy and inflation, he has become understandably nervous. We are financially stable with college covered and reasonable retirement savings (though far from our goal). I think it’s a lot of stress for the sole earner. I admit I wouldn’t want my sons to be in that boat. [/quote]

I’m always amazed by women on here and irl whose earning potential equals the one of a nanny. It’s almost fascinating how many low income women there are on this board. I’m glad you’re all finding husbands to support you, because otherwise it would be tough for you out there.[/quote]

What an idiotic post.
For one thing, nannies aren’t cheap, as multiple posters have pointed out. 
Secondly, MOST people in the US are “low income” by your standards. The median individual income is about 50k. That’s not enough to do much of anything let alone daycare for 2-3k a month for one infant. You are right to point out that some might be lower income if it makes more financial sense to stay home with the baby. But not everyone can make 150k and if everyone did, their buying power would be less. Our economy requires low income workers. And “don’t have kids if you can’t afford them” will result in an immediate population collapse.

We need to make things better for parents and especially mothers in this country. It is not good for infants to be shipped off to daycare at six weeks. If we can offer daycare subsidies, why couldn’t we just give the money to families to allow a parent to stay home longer?

I had my kids before I really had a career, so I was definitely in the camp of not working because I couldn’t afford daycare. My husband was supportive of the idea of me being a SAHM but he did not earn much in those early years and it was hard. But I am so glad I had those years with my kids. I went back to work as soon as the youngest was in K and I have an awesome well paying career now with kids in HS. I only wish it did not have to be so hard for us in the early years. [/quote]

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