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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The baby is likely full term. Did OP say they had only been dating 6 months? Even if the baby is only 32 weeks, how is it even possible that the baby is full term?

OP should not be supporting the mother, buying things, promising a credit card until there is a.a paternity test and b.a decision whether to keep it or give it up for adoption. The OP is giving the mother a false sense of how easy and workable it would be to keep the baby. If the mother isn’t ready to be a single mother both financially and from a maturity standpoint then she should seriously consider adoption. [/quote]

Any woman who is considering relinquishing a baby for adoption for purely financial reasons needs to know she is sentencing herself to a lifetime of emotional trauma and regret for a problem that is very likely both temporary and solvable.  And there is no guarantee that the adoptive family will be emotionally healthy, financially stable, or loving.  Once she signs the relinquishment, everything is completely out of her control, including whether a family that promised her open adoption might immediately close it.  Might get divorce.  Might die in an accident leaving the baby to people she didn’t choose.

Adoption is NOT a solution to temporary financial challenges.  It is permanent trauma to the mother and most likely significant trauma to the child as well.

(Read Relinquished by Gretchen Sisson for harrowing data about the fate of most relinquishing mothers.)

OP is absolutely doing the right thing here.  Even if this baby is not her grandchild, she is being kind and generous to a needy mother and completely innocent infant.

If anyone reading this is considering adoption because of financial challenges, please google Saving our Sisters, a nonprofit created by relinquishing mothers which helps women considering relinquishment get financial and logistical support to preserve their families.  [/quote]

Oh lookie pro birth maga has entered the chat .

Screw off saving our sisters BS pro birth crap [/quote]

What the hell are you talking about?  I’m the most pro-choice person I know.  Saving our Sisters is a pro-choice organization.  The child is already BORN, you imbecile.  Abortion is not an option.

I’m talking back to the idiots who are suggesting that adoption is a solution to a temporary financial condition.  There is ZERO indication from 30 pages of replies from OP that the mother doesn’t want this infant now that he is here.  Thats a vastly different situation from the beginning when the pregnancy was first discovered and the gestational age was unknown.[/quote]

No it is not pro choice it’s pro birth.

Saving our sisters isn’t there five years from now when this mother has nothing

Saving our sisters is not there ten years from now either.

Spare us your crap it’s pro birth [/quote]

Against you are absolutely DELUSIONAL.  Saving our Sisters is an organization that helps women who are considering adoption relinquishment.  It is not a crisis pregnancy center.  I actually don’t know any relinquishing mother who is pro-birth…the never ending pain of adoption loss for most relinquishing mothers is statistically far worse than that felt by even the very rare people who regret abortion, which few women do.  For women who don’t want to be pregnant, abortion care is the best option.  But many pregnant women consider adoption when they get closer to the due date (past when abortion is an option) for myriad reasons, most of which are both temporary and solvable.  And many pregnant women are coerced and brainwashed over the months of a pregnancy by abusive maternity home organizations and predatory adoption agencies.  May are pressured to sign relinquishment papers without legal counsel or understanding their rights.

Saving our Sisters’ specialty is helping women who may have signed relinquishment papers but immediately regret that decision, and the countdown is on to see if she can go up against adoption attorneys and all of the superior resources that most adopters have to fight to steal her baby from her when she wants him back.  SOS has legal experts in most states and has races to get revocation papers to courthouses on time.  They also work to provide temporary financial help for mothers and to recruit at least one “sister on the ground” who can help with practical matters, like holding the baby while a mother alone showers.

I don’t knew what your agenda is in trashing SOS but mine is clear: no newly postpartum mother who WANTS her baby but is vulnerable to the “brave love” lies of adoption recruiters that if she really loves her baby, she would give him up to wealthier people, should be coerced or pressured into losing her child forever because she faces temporary and fixable challenges.

Again, your adoption advocacy is just derailing here because OP’s grandson’s mother has never indicated she doesn’t want to keep her baby.  She has both resources and support.  She is not prey for your adoption fantasies.

(And if you believe yourself a feminist because you are pro-choice, coercing women to be breeders for richer women is pretty much by definition anti feminist.   It’s giving Handmaid’s Tale. Go away.)[/quote]

+10000000

This forum is filled with older, rich, infertile women who feel entitled to other women’s children. I’m happy to see this entitlement exposed for what it is. I’m not alone.[/quote]

Oh check your bias.
There are also people who themselves were unwanted children; children of neglectful, mentally ill, abusive, and/or checked-out people; children who wished someone would rescue them; children who longed every day for the day they could leave abusive homes. 
We aren't alone either. [/quote]

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