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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous] And, to be clear, she can do the same. Nobody's forcing her to make a "magical" holiday experience. If you don't enjoy it, stop.[/quote]

I mean, these things are important, to a degree.

But if I'm operating under extreme resentment and loathing because my spouse cannot or will not participate in the child's lives, I'm editing my mental load and protecting my mental health. [/quote]

Millions of people live perfectly fine lives without ever celebrating Christmas at all, ever. This shit is entirely optional.[/quote]

That’s total bullsh*t. Depriving your kid of cultural celebrations isn’t abuse per se but it’s really bad parenting. This is obviously just a cope to claim that traditional women’s work has no value. [/quote]

So people who don't care about Christmas are abusers? You're mental. Get help.

Women's work has value so they should limit how often that value gets tapped without compensation or reciprocation. If you can't figure out how to do that without "depriving your kid of cultural celebrations" you shouldn't have had kids. The radio plays free Christmas music, every mall has a santa, holiday lights are probably all over your neighborhood and walking is free. You don't have to pay money or time to celebrate the holiday, should you choose.

It's "total bullsh*t" that this thread is this long and some of y'all still can't figure this out for your allegedly-grown selves, let alone the children you love and overprotect so damned much. God help their future spouses![/quote]

All of those things you listed take time. And you probably should not have kids if you don’t want to create a happy home for them. [/quote]

So you want to create a happy home? Like this is a choice you make because you want it, not a burden thrust on you? [/quote]

I want men to take equal responsibility to create a happy home and not freeload on women and then if called on it, claim that the only thing kids need is food and water. [/quote]

You do realize that men will say the same thing, except with regard to breadwinning.[/quote]

Sure, men probably only say Breadwinning

Cuz that’s the only thing on their pea brain - paychecks, eat and sleep.  Me me me me me. [/quote]

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