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[quote=Anonymous][quote][quote]Anonymous wrote:
 
It's not an age or cultural thing. I just don't see why your husband should stay married to you if you don't want or like sex with him. [/quote]
He doesn't have to, you are right. What I'm objecting to is the idea that sex with a wife who is as interested as you are is a husband's "right," that it is the "job" of the wife to do that. These things all are subject to negotiation, and change over the course of a marriage - as PP said. If my DH cannot get a hard on as he gets older do I divorce him? Gee, if I had known that, I probably wouldn't have married him.

Oh, I didn't get it before. A man's changed sexuality with age is normal; a woman's is just a slap in the face of her husband, who deserves better. Thanks for enlightening me. [/quote]

Interesting point.  Many PPs say that they would be more accepting of LD if it were due to a medical problem.  Interesting of course that recovering from childbirth and the physiological changes connected to breastfeeding are somehow not seen as "medical," unlike say ED in a male spouse.  Seems that child-related "medical" causes for LD are recharacterized as "pyschological" for women - thus putting them in her "control" and thus made her responsibility.

Note - I'm not saying that many LD-HD conflicts don't exist in the absence of children and/or that OPs and other do not have legitimate grievances.  Just think that expecting anything much wrt sex in say, the year after childbirth, is just ridiculous, and undercuts their positions.[/quote]

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